Women Don't Care About Size - Honest Healthy Eve: We set our sights higher, on the heart and mind Every man I have ever known has been obsessed with size. This preoccupation with bigness seems to be embedded in the male psyche and it shows up in the darnedest places ó the Sears Tower, the Cadillac and the Great Wall of China, to give a few examples. Of course, itís in the bedroom where they worry about it the most. THOUGH I HAVE always reassured my male buddies that most women donít care about size, they are not convinced. They point to all the men having penis enlargements and ask, ìWho do you think theyíre doing it for?î In my bid to stop this unfortunate spate of genital stretching, I went to the experts. ìOf course women care about size,î says Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Brunswick, N.J., and author of ìAnatomy of Love.î ìBut they want the right size. Not too big, not too little. Women want the right fit.î OK, so I wasnít exactly right. But the gist is, when you go rooting around in the toolbox, you donít grab the biggest wrench in there. You pick the right tool for the job. What men donít seem to be able to grasp is that there is such a thing as too big. Itís a simple geometry problem, Iíve explained to a few select guys. You just canít park that humongo Eldorado in a compact car space. So, if women havenít been telling men to bring outsized accoutrements to the party, whereíd this message come from? A REPRODUCTIVE ADVANTAGE? Fisher thinks it lurks somewhere in the primal brain. Itís a result of evolution ó man on the savanna proving his genetic worth by siring as many children as possible. A longer penis, she explains, enables a man to put his sperm farther up the vaginal canal, and oh so much closer to that all-important egg. The extra centimeter or two makes for a shorter swim ó think the local duck pond as opposed to the English Channel ó for wriggling sperm with a mission. Ironically, modern man spends much more time thinking of ways to block pregnancy than closing the gap between male seed and ovum. So before running out to have that penis lengthened, men might want to consider this: Studies show that when asked to list the male body parts they eye first, women cite faces, hands, chests, shoulders and buttocks well before genitals. Of course, when confronted with this kind of information, my husband, an otherwise sensible man, insists that women do scrutinize ìthe packageî of guys they encounter. He says he knows a woman who went to the Joffrey Ballet in New York City just to check out the male dancers in leotards who displayed more than artistic prowess out there under the hot lights. ìWomen look,î he insists, ìand we know it.î I sigh. Itís sad, really. To reconnect with reality, I called my friend Brooke, a man-savvy, honest-to-goodness cowgirl from California. ìSure,î she says, ìmaybe thereís one or two women who spend their time staring at menís crotches. But if I were a guy, I wouldnít want to be with one of them anyway.î Men should realize that women set their sights higher. We care much more about the size of two other body parts ó the heart and the mind ó than we do about the penis. http://www.msnbc.com/news/191950.asp
	Linda Carroll, a Philadelphia-based freelancer, often writes for the New York Times Syndicate and Newsday.
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